Late post alert. But better late than never right? But this weeks post is about balance. I feel like this is a pretty relatable topic. Everyone has some issue with overthinking or “not giving a fuck”.
On one hand, you have overthinking or caring too much about what other people think. This can keep you from doing things and build resentment and regret. All while second guessing yourself into stagnation. I understand that you must think before you act, but this is about overthinking. When you overthink, it’s usually because you care too much about what other people think. Which I feel is valid. The same way I feel like anyones experiences and opinions are valid. If someone thinks you are rude, right or wrong, that experience is true to them. So there is validity in how you present yourself to the world and how people interpret your existence.
On the other hand, you have “not giving a fuck” or just caring about what you think. This one seems to be becoming more and more popular, for its sense of liberation I’m guessing. If you have to be more one the the other I would say “don’t overthink shit”. Many times we are the ones that keep ourselves from our own goals through stagnation. Just do it. You might make mistakes or burn bridges but in a sense you’re falling forward, I guess. You need to have self confidence, but can’t become so self consumed that you create an echo chamber of your own ideas.
Here’s the Thing. You need a healthy balance of both. You need a thick skin and confidence in your own ideas and also to be sensitive to how you effect others. Sometimes we don’t give a fuck, like hangin or going out with friends, and other times we overthink shit, like getting nervous for a job interview. Find the balance.