Frequency

I think I believe in love a first sight, or at least lust at first sight. But I’m not sure if I believe in soul mates. It’s a weird place to start, I know, but I’ll get there.

Maybe I’m negative, but when it comes to the sheer numbers, I think it would be a pretty sick joke to put your soul mate on the other side of the planet, or the next city over for that matter. I believe that people vibrate at different frequencies. Usually people vibrate pretty similar to their friend group. The same way “ladies” periods will line up if they live together 🤷🏾‍♂️. Or the way you can tell someone is from the South or foreign. Aside from vibrating on that cultural wave, people have very unique tones, based on their experiences, influences, and aspirations.

I don’t know if it’s confidence or charisma. But there is something about either having your shit together or not giving a fuck, that people can just smell on you. It’s like people have evolved to sense the realness in others. And with all the posturing and flexing, there’s something subconscious that people feel when you are genuine. It’s been my experience, that when I am truly in the moment, not caring about who is watching, or how I may look, and free of expectation. That’s when I seem to ring at my truest tone. Things seem to fall into place. I just seem like I’m in the right place at the right time, way more often. Meet new people, get invited to do new things, and am open to learning lessons that I don’t think I normally would be.

I know I said I’d get there, but idk where I was going. This is more about just being yourself and letting it ring true, to attract the positive energy that comes from vibrating at your own frequency.

Real People

🚨 Political Post 🚨

I’ve noticed from my interactions on Facebook that Conservatives are very willing to talk and debate ideas. While on the other hand Liberals are more likely to laugh at the idea, talk down, or not make it worth their time.

I’m wondering if others have had this same experience. I think it’s because a lot of liberal ideas are emotion and utopia based, where as many conservative ideas are more rooted in application.

I do want to say that I don’t know what I’m talking about. I don’t quite know what I identify as- “liberal”, if I had to guess, but when I interact with conservatives online, they make some points. I don’t know enough to argue, so I usually just try to listen or ask questions and learn as much as I can about either side but like I said earlier, liberals usually aren’t as forthcoming with thier ideas, usually assuming that you’re either already on board or that ship has left. I think it’s “sexy” to some people to be associated with ideas or a movement. And with social media as polarizing as it is, if you don’t know how to feel, you are part of the problem.

I think Chris Rock said it best in one of his specials. He said something to the effect of, “No one is 100% one thing. Anyone that makes up their mind before they hear the issue is a fool. There are some things I’m liberal about and other things I’m conservative about. Crime. I’m conservative. Prostitution. I’m liberal”. Shout out to Chris, but I think in this day and age, nuance isn’t sexy (especially not in the news). We are the generation of texts, vines and Snapchat. Our attention spans seem to be getting shorter, and with that the news has become more polarizing.

I started this thinking I was going to make a post for Facebook,but realized I’m not that person. Maybe I’ll repost this, if anyone will read it. On some subliminal level, I feel like talking to real people is the best way to form opinions. Articles can be skewed, corrected, have agendas…all kinds of things. Plus, I don’t know those people. It’s the same reason I don’t like or listen to Rotten Tomatoes film reviews. I dont know those people and they don’t know me. So why would I take their advice on a movie I might really enjoy? I know I’m young, and will probably grow out of these ideas, but when you feel inspired for “Here’s The Thing”, you let it flow.

I’m just a stereotype of a black male misunderstood, but it’s still all good.

Here’s The Thing….

Over the past year, I’ve been really learning how to become a professional. In the sense that things need to be done.

Rome wasn’t build in a day, but it also wasn’t built when they felt like it. I think everyone struggles with “feelin it”. If not, then maybe this could be about mental illness instead of professionalism. Really it’s just riding the roller coaster between uber motivated and driven and then riding through feelings of stagnation and unproductive thoughts.

This week was just one of those lull weeks. Was late to work, a cheap meal turned into a cheap day, that turned into a cheat weekend. Then I’m stuck to pull myself out of the hole I’ve created, to hold myself accountable to the person I want to become. It’s just like Zack and I talked about in the last episode. Once you have integrity or a standard, it is very hard to go back. I know that being healthy and responsible is who I want to be, and I can’t justify making excuses.

Some days I feel like I’m really on to something, like I figuring things out. Then days like last week, you realize you have a lot of growing up to do. C’est La Vie.

*This was edited, after the fact. But no one will notice.*

*except Zack*

Being the Best vs. Staying the Best

It takes a certain kind of person to strive to be the best. That, plus an incredible amount of determination to become it. But the reason why some are seen as the greatest of all time or legends, is because the consistency they achieved to stay the best.

Growing up and even now, I always equated this to athletes like Micheal Jordan or Jon Jones. Micheal Jordan was one of my sports idols growing up, not just because of Space Jam, but because the legacy he left in his presence and wake. I once heard it phrased that “Jordan kept a lot of Hall of Famers from getting rings”. As a Jacksonville Jaguars fan, I know what it’s like to have a good season, only to be figured out and squelched the next.

Maybe it’s luck or circumstance, but it’s not impossible to get to the top. But once you’ve been figured out, your not a flash in the pan, people see your weaknesses, and people are driven to beat you. That’s when true greatness is tested. To be a truly unstoppable force is to succeed in the face of constant hungry challengers.

As usual, I don’t know where I’m going with this, and managed to ramble till it all ran together. But I think I say that to say this. Dream beyond your goals. If attaining your goals is the end, once you do, the thrill is gone. But like my mom always says, “Be the best at getting better!”

It’s a Vibe

Maybe it’s cause I’m black, but I’ve always had rhythm. I mean, as long as I can remember, I’ve had somewhat of a soundtrack to my life. I know I got it from my dad. He always seemed like he had a spiritual connection with music. From how he listened, what he heard, and even how he played. Ive never seen him dance tho, till this day. We used to listen to music, and he would ask me things like, “how many instruments do you hear? What’s the bass line? Do you hear that?”. He used to listen to music on almost mute, cause he said it would make you listen harder and appreciate the music. I say that, to say this.

Whether it was jamming’ the oldies on car rides with my parents growing up, or hype songs in the locker room, or love songs in middle school (what a time). I’ve always been able to associate memories with music and emotions. I always have a song playing in my head. Whether it’s the latest top 40 hit, or some acoustic song I heard in a movie. I say THAT, to say this.

I’m not sure what comes first, or if it’s a case if the chicken and the egg. But not only do I associate music with memories and emotions. But I can use music to change or set my mood as well. There’s nothing like waking up on a weekend, putting on an album, and starting your day off in a groove. It’s also always a nice refresher to change the genre of music that you listen to. So if you normally listen to rap, try listening to reggae or r&b. There’s usually a shift in the message and can help get you out of a rut in your thinking or habits.

Takeaways: Dance like no one is watching and don’t be afraid to mix it up every once in a while.

Friction

As a younger man I used to crave the friction of life. It was the tactile sensation that came from living. It was the soreness you feel after you worked out or the discomfort of trying something new. I embraced the unknown and the friction that would surely follow.

As I grew, I started to ween out of these thoughts and into the comfort of “good is easy” and “if it was meant to be, it would” and “go with the flow”.

I recently performed at my first paid comedy show, and I felt the friction. I felt the anxiety, the fear, the suspense. I felt all of it. And in hindsight I can say, I loved it. In hindsight, I can see it is what I need to grow and become not only a better comic, but a better person. In the moment, I felt the uncertainty. Until that moment, it was all unicorns and rainbows. Open mics and showcases, and it all felt like it was falling into place. It felt like I was a natural. But that night was something new. It was new people, new room, new town, new pressure. It was no longer an open mic, with little to no stakes. This was a show, that people paid good money to come be entertained. It forced me to accept certain truths and address my reality. The reality that, this life I envision for myself, will be unforgiving, exhausting, and sometimes unbearable. But that’s just the friction that comes from really living.

I still love the song “Smooth Sailin’ Tonight” by The Isley Brothers. But at this point in my life, I think I more favor the quote “smooth seas don’t make good sailors”. It’s the friction that sparks growth and the friction that builds character. I’m not exactly sure what the point is, but embrace the suck!