Author: The Relatables

Late post alert. But better late than never right? But this weeks post is about balance. I feel like this is a pretty relatable topic. Everyone has some issue with overthinking or “not giving a fuck”.

On one hand, you have overthinking or caring too much about what other people think. This can keep you from doing things and build resentment and regret. All while second guessing yourself into stagnation. I understand that you must think before you act, but this is about overthinking. When you overthink, it’s usually because you care too much about what other people think. Which I feel is valid. The same way I feel like anyones experiences and opinions are valid. If someone thinks you are rude, right or wrong, that experience is true to them. So there is validity in how you present yourself to the world and how people interpret your existence.

On the other hand, you have “not giving a fuck” or just caring about what you think. This one seems to be becoming more and more popular, for its sense of liberation I’m guessing. If you have to be more one the the other I would say “don’t overthink shit”. Many times we are the ones that keep ourselves from our own goals through stagnation. Just do it. You might make mistakes or burn bridges but in a sense you’re falling forward, I guess. You need to have self confidence, but can’t become so self consumed that you create an echo chamber of your own ideas.

Here’s the Thing. You need a healthy balance of both. You need a thick skin and confidence in your own ideas and also to be sensitive to how you effect others. Sometimes we don’t give a fuck, like hangin or going out with friends, and other times we overthink shit, like getting nervous for a job interview. Find the balance.

I’m at an age where I seem to be getting more and more “life” advice. I was recently told that your 20’s are for learning about yourself, your 30’s are for grinding, and your 40’s are for enjoying it all. I liked the format, but it got me thinking about enjoying it all. I get that you have to work hard to play hard. But I want to play now. That’s why I thought I was getting a head start by trying to go into my grinding phase here in my late 20’s. I never liked how people had this idea of retiring when they are old. Why would you save all this money, to be too old to truly enjoy it. Take trips, be adventurous. I’m sure I have a “young mans” view of this. But I want to live life to the fullest, while I still have all my faculties to do so.

So I’ve started “grinding” to get ahead of the curve. I’ve been working everyday for the last month and a half now. No days off, working 2 jobs, getting on stage, going to the gym. But goddamn is it always on. I feel like I’m always thinking of my next move, without fully engaging in my current one. I need to take a step back and smell the roses.

So I took “a” morning shift off 😂🤷🏾‍♂️. I know it’s not a true rest day, since I still work 7 days a week. But it’s a start, and enough for me to get my head above water, and enjoy the waves, before I catch the next.

When I was growing up, I never liked the concept of work. I understood it, but always wondered why I couldn’t just get paid for being me. That’s what I “thought” a celebrity was. A person who was paid to be a walking billboard. But through comedy I think I found a way to actualize that dream. I can work on becoming the truest version of myself, and with success can eventually never “work” another day again.

Here’s The Thing. Life is about balance. And everyone has a different fulcrum point. Right not I feel like I’m playing see-saw by myself. But I know in time, I’ll feel like the blind scale of Lady Justice.