You’re Better (Sober)
Please don’t get defensive. I know you’re an adult and you get things done but you’re WAY better sober. If you don’t think so, you’re lying to yourself. I don’t care what your chemical of choice is- whether it’s booze, weed, pills, powder, etc., you could be doing a lot more in life if you cut back or cut it out altogether. I go back and forth all the time as to whether or not I should be stone cold sober. I don’t think I have an addiction problem but I do think sometimes I let my vices get in the way of things.
“We all need something”. I hear that quote all the time when people try to rationalize their vices. It’s weak thinking. I think vices and virtues are two sides of the same coin. The more time and energy you spend flipped to the vice side, the less virtue. Even the most balanced people on earth can admit their vices create stagnation and even regression. So why do we continue to do things that don’t help us?
My main vice is pot. I’ve been smoking since I was 15 (I’m 27 now) and I’m not proud of it. I’m actually pretty embarrassed. I wish I would have waited for my brain to develop more before trying it. I feel like I should have grown out of wanting to be high and not present all the time at this point in my life. I know it holds me back. I took what should have been a fun high school phase way too far. Any uber-successful person I know doesn’t smoke pot and the people I do know who smoke way too much pot…drive for Uber.
I’m not a huge drinker but that’s because the after effects are rarely worth it. Sure, it helps you loosen up around people but let’s face it, you’re annoying as fuck when you’re drunk. You’re loud, dumb and not worried about how you come off or effect others. You wake up in the morning feeling like shit, concerned about actions from the night before for what? A couple hours of mindless distraction? We spend our money on overpriced booze, post way too many stories on Instagram and eat like shit to sop up the alcohol. What the fuck are we doing?!
I’m not here to preach or to make you feel bad but I know at least one of you out there needed to read this. You’re doing alright in life but you’re looking for that edge to put your over the top and in the place you really want to be. Do me a favor, quit your vice for just a little bit. Start off with a week, then a month and then more and tell me your life hasn’t changed for the better. If you prove me wrong, I’ll take this post down and we’ll go get a beer together. Until then, we’ll see how my hypothesis sits…I think you’re better sober.
Social Media Holidays
When I was growing up (just like almost every other kid), my parents, grandparents, friends and coaches would all take pictures. Most kids can find a photo album of them doing everything from playing at the beach, to opening Christmas presents.
But at some point around middle or high school, the pictures stopped. At least for me, anyway. I’ve always had a weird thing about being in the moment and present, and taking out a camera always killed that for me. I was never opposed to group photos or pictures, but I grew away from stopping the moment to capture the moment.
With the internet and social media, content is king, and if it’s not text, audio, video, or picture, it doesn’t exist. From taking pictures of food to girls doing cooking tutorials in just a bikini, the internet has a place for everything.
This past weekend was Father’s Day, and social media was flooded with girls posting their wedding pictures with dad, boats days with dad, and food posts from fathers saying they are the luckiest man alive. To me, these moments and holidays are intimate- they are to be spent with the ones around you and cherished. But there are a few holidays that are poised for social media, and if played right could certainly add to your “clout”.
In the realm of holidays some are more powerful than others, with the 4 horsemen being; Mother’s Day, Father’s Day, The 4thof July, and New Year’s Eve. These are what I consider “social media holidays”, where one is compelled to show the world they do/did in fact have parents and weren’t born in a lab. There’s the 4th, a day where the hashtag #SunsOutBunsOut is pushed to the absolute limit and who can forget New Year’s Eve, the holiday with the most creative captions, usually consisting of song lyrics (most likely Drake) or squad/couple goals.
Honorable mentions of “social media” holidays include Halloween and Valentine’s Day for the thirst traps and the “forever loves”. There is no real point to make here, just the observation, that with theses changing times, the times they are a changing. What if there was a Social Media Day, where we celebrated clean airspace, free of radio waves or Wi-Fi? Idk, Just a Thought.
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So there’s a portion of Your Friends Favorite Podcast that has really grown on me. It’s a section I call “Highly Recommended”. I didn’t know why I liked it so much until I heard Kevin Hart talk about his passions on The Joe Rogan Experience. I used to think that a friends recommendation, whether it be a movie, restaurant, song, vacation spot, relationship advice, etc. was an extension of them. And to write off or ignore a recommendation felt almost like I was slighting them. Everyone knows the feeling of being really excited about a movie, song or show and going to tell your friend about it, then checking on them the next day or in a week only to find out they didn’t check it out. I want to live the best and happiest life I can, and I, as only one man, can only experience so much. And as I look back, I’ve done and witnessed a lot of amazing things and wasted my time doing many things that were less than stellar. I like to look at my friends as curators to the world, and filters of experience. If you are my friend, then I value your opinion, and if you recommend something, I feel like you enjoyed it. I know that you filtered out all the BS to something that you believe others will enjoy too. In fewer words, a recommendation is like someone’s Instagram. You don’t see the bad times, you get the highlight reel of their life. They found their good side, filtered out all the bad lighting, cropped out their ex, and present to the world their best selves. So the next time someone recommends something to you, don’t take it as a chore to accomplish, but as an opportunity to skip the BS and get right to the good stuff.